Feelings and fear

Feelings and fear There are some fears that are universal – fear of harm, of an exterior danger trying to do you harm (a dangerous animal approaching) or fear of a life-threatening situation (serious illness, lack of food, shelter etc). What I have been curious to explore is some of the emotional fears I experienceContinue reading “Feelings and fear”

When the time is right

It took me a while to come back to this blog. In fact, I considered deleting it altogether as I was feeling embarrassed about how long it’s been since my last post. And then I realised I could use my return to the site as the subject of the post – or more specifically, aboutContinue reading “When the time is right”

Is there anything new to say about menopause, meditation and recovery?

It’s been a while since I posted on this blog, and while there’s been plenty of life stuff keeping me busy, one of the reasons I’ve been reluctant to write is that I was worried I would just be repeating what other people are saying – but probably in a more authoritative or articulate way!Continue reading “Is there anything new to say about menopause, meditation and recovery?”

Finding peace in the in-between

A few years ago, there was an advert on TV in the UK for a pantyliner and the tagline was “for those in-between times”. I remember thinking how twee and euphemistic that seemed – not least because they were now trying to sell us products for when we were on our periods and when weContinue reading “Finding peace in the in-between”

Why we need to stop looking for the other magpie

I live in a semi-rural area and have been taking my lockdown walks in the various fields and open spaces in the village. On every walk I’ve been on, I’ve spotted a magpie. Just the one, every time. Instinctively, I’ve scanned the fields and the sky looking for another, so ingrained in me is theContinue reading “Why we need to stop looking for the other magpie”

Working remotely and the menopause – tips for a more balanced lockdown life

The menopause is an unpredictable beast at the best of times – leaving some of us exhausted, forgetful, emotional and changing temperature as often as a British summer day. The current pandemic and changes to our working and social lives have heaped even more change on The Change. But it’s possible to get through itContinue reading “Working remotely and the menopause – tips for a more balanced lockdown life”

Why we can’t control how others think – the frustrating truth

One of the lessons it took me over 40 years to learn (and which I still need to remind myself of on a daily basis) is the fact that we can’t control how other people think about us. At face value, this seems strange to believe. After all, we spent our childhoods being told thatContinue reading “Why we can’t control how others think – the frustrating truth”

The alternative to affirmations

Make your own case When I was trying to stop smoking over 10 years ago, I tried a number of methods, including willpower and cold turkey and nicotine substitutes before finding the Alan Carr “how to stop smoking book”. I thought it was brilliant as it really explained the reasons behind why I was smokingContinue reading “The alternative to affirmations”

Challenging our interpretations

Challenging assumptions and interpretations Sometimes we don’t realise how much we’re interpreting a belief until we take the time to get it down on paper. This is a trick I got from Byron Katie (author of Loving What Is), and it’s brilliant for loosening those stubborn beliefs. If you’re struggling to see why you’re feelingContinue reading “Challenging our interpretations”

Is it true? Interrogating our beliefs

Challenging beliefs So now we have this list of beliefs that are shaping the way we live our lives and communicate with those around us. It’s time to interrogate each one of these beliefs to see if they really hold up to scrutiny. Sometimes what seems to be a strong belief about something will actuallyContinue reading “Is it true? Interrogating our beliefs”